Not So Gentle: The Parenting Trend that Lost Its Way

What started as a well-intentioned shift toward empathy and connection has, for many families, turned into confusion, guilt, and unrealistic expectations. In this episode, clinical psychologist and author Dr. Emily Edlynn joins us to unpack the “gentle parenting” trend—and why it may be doing more harm than good. Drawing from her book Autonomy-Supportive Parenting, Dr. Edlynn explains how we can move beyond buzzwords and social media soundbites to embrace a research-backed approach that balances warmth, boundaries, and child independence. If you’ve ever felt unsure about how to stay kind and in charge as a parent, this episode is for you.

 

Key Takeaways for Listeners:

  1. Being a supportive parent doesn’t mean being permissive—structure, boundaries, and emotional connection can (and should) coexist.

  2. Autonomy-supportive parenting offers a science-backed alternative that promotes healthy independence, emotional regulation, and mutual respect between parent and child.

  3. Social media often simplifies or distorts complex parenting ideas, so it’s important to look beyond influencer advice and turn to evidence-based guidance.

  4. Parents deserve grace, realistic expectations, and flexible strategies that support both their children’s development and their own well-being..

Season 3, Episode 8